Dear future surrogate,
We are writing this letter with full hearts and deep gratitude for the incredible role you may play in our lives. Even before knowing you, we feel an immense sense of respect and appreciation for your willingness to help another family grow in such a meaningful way!
The journey to becoming parents has not been simple for us, but it has made us even more certain of the love, care, and dedication we are ready to give a child. We started our journey with some fertility issues, and after a few outpatient surgeries we were sent to Yale and officially diagnosed with Asherman Syndrome. This is a rare disorder that causes the uterus to grow scar tissue/adhesions. We were then invited to join a clinical study at Yale that would essentially take the stem cells from my own bone marrow and inject in my uterus to prevent more scar tissue from growing. Unfortunately, after completing some pre-requisite tests and labs, my hormone levels did not meet the requirements to participate.
This led us back to our fertility clinic and we decided our best chances were to start IVF! With IVF we were lucky enough with one successful fertilized embryo that passed all the tests! Next, we unfortunately found out that my uterine cavity was too small (even with hormone therapy) to carry our embryo safely.
Choosing surrogacy is not a decision we made lightly—it comes with hope, trust, and the understanding that someone extraordinary would be at the center of it all. That someone is you.
We want you to know that, above everything, we see you as a person first—not just as a surrogate, but as someone with your own life, dreams, and story. Your kindness and strength in considering this path means more to us than words can fully express. We are committed to treating you with respect, honesty, and compassion every step of the way.
If we are fortunate enough to work together, we hope to build a relationship rooted in trust, open communication, and mutual care. We want you to feel supported, valued, and comfortable throughout the entire journey.
The child you would help bring into the world will be surrounded by love, encouragement, and opportunity. We promise to raise them with kindness, curiosity, and all the love they could possibly receive!
Thank you for even considering being part of something so life-changing for us. No matter where this journey leads, we are profoundly grateful for people like you who make families possible.
With sincere appreciation and hope,
C & D
